"Guess all I can say is it's been nuts and heartening to see the response, but also deeply annoying how many men they are who think they're utter pillars of virtue, and that everyday sexism just isn't significant when you compare it to rape".
The polls come in bundles of 15 questions and users select the contact they have in mind from four options, such as "I will marry them", "Who is most likely to be president" and "Who would you most likely go on a road trip with?". "Women are disclosing that they've been harassed, attacked or abused, sometimes for the first time, and if it isn't for the first time, it's for the first time this publicly".
"But that doesn't detract from the fact that these things happen nearly routinely and on a mass scale to women and girls throughout their lives and that they're perpetrated overwhelmingly by men".
But when will a man say, yes, me too? "My own experience, my patients' experiences ..."
Facebook bought teen-focused app TBH (short for To Be Honest) for an estimated US$100 million (S$136 million) last week. Statistically, most reported cases involve men harassing women.
The phrase has been used more than 825,000 times on Twitter after the actor Alyssa Milano encouraged survivors of sexual assault to share their own stories, using the hashtag #MeToo. While women speaking out about their past experiences, and directly when it happens, will help, we also need the men of the industry to do their part.
On Wednesday, Olympic gymnast McKayla Maroney tweeted that she was repeatedly molested by the team doctor from age 13. Multiple times, friends and colleagues will say the opposite of #MeToo - they will say, "Oh, I didn't know that was abuse". Are all of the people who are guilty of sexual harassment or who have assaulted someone really listening? We knew and shared ways to stay safe - carrying safety-pins in our pockets to poke the men, elbows out at all times, and so on. All of these issues are tied to an ethos that views women as property, too infantile to know what's best for themselves. Ten women came forward with their personal accounts of harassment, including former Fox News hosts Gretchen Carlson and Megyn Kelly. "So, we have to speak up ourselves". We can know their stories and not really know their struggles. Honestly my initial reaction was sort of panic for a few reasons.
How do you make sure marginalized voices are included in this conversation? Berkowitz posted on Facebook. Until women, persons of color, LGBTQ people, people with disabilities, children, poor people and seniors are all considered full human beings, with the right to bodily integrity and equal regard under the law, the present culture of abuse will persist, and predators will continue to thrive.
Russell explains: "Women pointing out that male violence against women and girls is a widespread problem that we as a society need to acknowledge and challenge is not the same as telling you you're violent or abusive simply because you're a man". The women looked out for each other, but the men, they stayed silent.
Some people have criticized #MeToo because it puts the onus on women - rather than men - to disclose their past traumas to make a point. "No. Let's be careful with the way we use our language to debase women in every way". "It's about men who are not doing this, raising a generation of boys who don't do it". These are the women who will rush to dismiss others' experiences or minimize them as a rite of passage: "This is just normal". Cosby's rape accusers now number 59, while almost 50 women already have accused Weinstein of sexual harassment or even rape. Apparently the only reason he didn't do it at this event was because he thought I was in a relationship this time around.
Every mental adjustment is aimed at surviving the moment: Maintaining composure, appearing confident and competent, unflustered, as if the action never happened, letting the perpetrator off the hook. "I've learned that it's often the less obvious, yet pervasive and questionable, everyday behaviors of men in our industry that collectively make it inhospitable for women", he wrote. I think it's important that people feel validated. But my heart is literally racing with recollections of being touched, catcalled, cursed and objectified.
Not to be a party pooper, but I'm kind of done with the whole Harvey Weinstein thing.